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Woman with the baby carriage in the working world

Today in Forbes Woman Russia, I read an article about the self-presentation of women in social networks. It was mostly about the fact that internet is tired of the Instagram and Facebook presenting ideal life of a businesswoman, who wake up with perfect hair and makeup and never look exhausted.

This is a very interesting idea, especially because I just coloured my hair blond so my colleagues and my BF would not see swelling around my eyes 😉

A good career, even and especially with a “work-life balance” requires a lot of personal investment. You will get much more tired, if you care to get more from your life. If after your day at work you will go to a sport studio or to a language course or even for a coffee with a friend, you will be more satisfied, but also more tired. Did you ever wonder about those pictures of coffee cups by the window, and why people do them in fancy cafes?)) Because, when you have that damn cup of coffee, you look like hell, be it before or after work.

This is essential that one cannot come to a presentation looking exhausted, but this does not mean that you should present myself as a person who never gets tired. Personally, after such fairs like IFAT, I am just tired from the social interaction, so the next 3 days there will be no meetings with clients, and I may come to the office wearing less to no makeup.

Another point I would like to mention are mothers, who want to demonstrate that a career with a child is possible. They come with their husbands moving a baby carriage with a 4-months child to give a presentation about their mother-friendly employer. Are you kidding me??? A mother-friendly employer will give a woman her peace for the first year, which is of an ultimate importance to her child. You may start your career and change it over and over again, but you will never be able to take back the first year with your child.

Today one can enjoy the benefits of home office and flexible working hours. Especially for pregnant ladies and women with children this is an opportunity to keep the career and still invest a lot of time into their families. In Germany, one can also choose to work 70% or 80% of the usual 40 working hours per week, which gives even more time for children. In many well-developed countries interested in increasing of the women in management rates, men can also get a part of the total time off to raise their child to support the mother. This looks like a world getting used to working women to me.

The appropriate integration of women into the working world does not mean that every woman should act like a man. This does not mean that she should step back from her life as a woman in order to demonstrate everybody the commitment to her career. This only means that she, with all her female problems and female looks, should be accepted and understood not less than men are.

Always yours,

Russianladyabroad

Интересная статья об интимных отношениях в США

Так как статья переведена на русский язык, просто грех не поделиться! Я тоже обратила внимание, что американцы иначе подходят к построению отношений. Правда, завидев русскую женщину, очень часто идут напролом, особенно в более сельских регионах, где потенциальных невест не так много – это, к сожалению, уже клише. У немцев, точно так же, вы “встречаетесь, но не вместе”, пока об этом напрямую не поговорили. Хорошее чтиво для выходных!

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Thought for the day

Read in the German subway today: “If you did not make it to an It-Girl (comment: a young female media celebtrity and a socialite), come to us and become an IT-girl!”

Coming soon in my blog: Hannover trade fair, the place where technology meets IT. I am in motion, jumping from a stand to a stand looking for new technological partners. I’ll keep you posted 😉

Thought for the day

It’s truly amazing, how people with less opportunities get inspired about simple things.

Being a “cool lady in a suit” myself, I always wonder, why those “cool guys in the suits” always act like I own them. Like I should convince them that I am worth their time, that my ideas are worth their time. They scan me from head to tall, deciding, whether my outfit makes me eligible for a talk with them, the business gods. And it does, and we talk.

Then I go to communes and SMEs and discuss the very same projects with them. And they are burning for changes, they are full of ideas, they are grateful for any attention.

Then the projects become successful. One day later the same people go into Armani, buy a business suits and turn out to be the new generation of “cool guys in the suits”.

The success is a thing that comes and goes. Hopefully, then comes again. If at the point, when you are down, you don’t like who you became, you’re done. It is you who you will always need to work with. It is you who you always should tolerate. Therefore, by all means, try to be a people person you would love to work with. The mask of coolness suits only those who depend on others with the same mask.

Reputation of Russian women in the world: how to use if rules apply, what to do if you don’t comply

In Russia, I was a “strong 5 from 10” type. Small, curvy, well educated, with many interests in various areas, I was not in the centre of attention.  Surprisingly, this has changed once I moved abroad – but not necessarily for the best. This article will be a summary of stories from some countries, which shows, how men around the world are fixed on the idea of “Russian brides”, and how to deal with that.

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Russian character: 7 character traits to get rid of if you want ANY international career

A friend of mine has inspired me to write this article. Living abroad since 2013, I already forgot, how many character traits, clichés, ways of thinking and bad manners I overcame in order to be where I am now. Every time I give a comment about a need to change any “typically Russian” behaviour, I get something like “You are a Russian hater!” in exchange. As a “Russian hater” (a hate of myself, I suppose, by definition…), I might feel free to just give it all and list here ALL “typically Russian” traits, which will make a sustainable international career almost impossible to any Russian who sees no need to change.

If you think that everybody will accept you “as you are” and you will have no need in changing yourself while building your career abroad – you are very wrong. These 7 character traits will cost you a career, no matter, how smart, talented and experience you are –therefore, just trust me and get rid of them!

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Thought for the day

The competitions between men and between women are different. Men compete with each other: who has the best job, who has the most expensive car, who has the most beautiful girlfriend…They search for motivation to be better than they are, better than the others may become. Have you ever seen a man putting his efforts into a 3-months die-for-a-cake diet just to look like Ms. Perfect in his OLD bikini? “When I was 19, my weight was 53 kg!”, “When I was 22, I had no wrinkles!”, “When I was 30, I could wear shorter skirts!” A woman is competing not just with others – to be better, stronger, slimmer, smarter – she is competing with herself in the future AND herself in the past. And this is the game she will only lose.

And when I was 30…and when I was 40…and when you were a little baby, my dear, you had no complexes at all!!

Cheers,

Your Russianladyabroad

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